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Tuesday, March 5, 2013

And We're Back! With Debt. Shit.

Anyone still out there? Man, how did all these cobwebs get in this place? Sheesh. Lemme clean this place up a bit and see if we can't sit down and have some tea. Wow. You look great. What's been going on in your world to give you such a glow?

Where to begin? Lord Jesus. For those kind souls who have been reading this awhile, pardon the repeating info here. I began this blog eons ago in an attempt to share a tips on living frugally in a socially conscious manner and to keep myself on the path of a consciously frugal life. Talking about this crap helps me to stay immersed in it, lest I fall into the American Consumer sink hole of idiocy. Like most folks, I wander the path quite well most of the time and occasionally wander off course here and there, usually course correcting before anything catastrophic happens. Usually. I also deftly avoided monetizing and/or promoting the crap out of this thing. I don't want it to be commodified (is that a word?). I have other avenues to generate money. I have loved--absolutely loved--the process by which readership and community has grown. I've made friends from this sucker. Dammit, internet and blogging, I love you.

Over the past couple of years, I managed to get out of credit card debt (hollah!), kill my car and spend more than a year as a car-free person in Los Angeles (seriously dudes? Shit ain't easy), buy a new-to-me car, and get knocked down by some serious health issues. Thankfully, I am back on my feet post health drama, although it's still a work in progress and probably always will be. But around this time last year, I couldn't walk and couldn't work. Praise the Baby Jesus and all the fishies in the sea, I am now working away and working out regularly. Back on my feet in a most literal sense.

When I got out of debt and lived my car-free life, I thought I was set. Finally! All those years of learning the frugal trade and living the frugal life paid off! I could afford to do absolutely scandalous things like hire cleaning help, buy art, and drink excessively. Oh wait, I've always done the latter. But it was glorious. And then, illness hit and hit hard. I had savings, but not enough. I mean, it's not like I have kids or something, right? And I have health insurance, so it's not like I needed to have shit tons of money sitting around in a savings account. Just enough to get by in case of an emergency, which I always assumed would only be the loss of a job. Yanno, as if I were immune to the leading cause of bankruptcy (it's medical expenses if you don't want to click on the link). Apparently, I'm not special. Not immune.

For three months, my salary was hacked and my expenses went through the roof. My primary care doctors are mind bogglingly incompetent, so I had to pay for the majority of my care out of pocket. I racked up a good chunk of debt in the process while eating through my savings. Fun times, y'all. Fun times.

There are new circumstances that will cause some money hiccups that I'll get into at a later time, but needless to say, I've had to get back on my game (and my blogging, because it's part of my getting-my-crap-in-line process) and, for the first time in eons, I am doing freelance work (in addition to volunteering. So much going on!) to bring in extra money to help beat the debt back down. Lots and lots of work ahead of me. Thankfully, I like what I do. Writing words on a glowing rectangle in an effort to help folks is a good gig. I'm lucky.

Most importantly? Now I know, via the most valuable kind of knowledge--first hand experience. I stopped ignoring my health issues, thinking they would vanish if abandoned. (Brilliant, right? I can't believe I haven't won the MacArthur genius grant yet!) I understand that emergencies come in all forms, not just job loss. Not having kids doesn't mean I don't need to be prepared for a multitude of potential catastrophes. But dammit, y'all, if I'm not pissed as hell about being back in credit card debt. Took me a year to get back into it and will likely take two years to get back out of it. Time to pick up my frugal living tools and knock that fucker out. Ready? Set. Here we go!

16 comments:

Jeanne Ireland said...

It sucks that you were ill but great that you are back on your feet. I don't know who is ever fully prepared for loss of health, job or person. You did what you had to do and now you can live healthy and pay down the debt again. The end of the world does not come because you owe money; it comes because you didn't take care of the most important thing - yourself. Keep on keepin' on.

Demandra said...

Jeanne, I think this needs to be tattooed on everyone's forehead: "The end of the world does not come because you owe money; it comes because you didn't take care of the most important thing - yourself." Amen! And thanks for the kind and supportive words. :)

EcoCatLady said...

First of all, I'm sooo glad that you're back! Seriously, I've missed you!

Secondly, I'm soooo glad that you've got your health back! And hooray for you for exercising and taking better care of yourself. You go girl!

Finally, Oy!!!! That just totally sucks about being in debt because of health issues... I'll refrain from the long political rant that is brewing while thinking about it. But you'll get through it, I have total confidence in you! :-)

FreshGreen Kim said...

Welcome back! I always miss your gut checks. I admire your honesty and your commitment to living true to your beliefs. You inspire me and again, welcome back!

Lisa Page Rosenberg said...

So glad you're back. So super glad.

Demandra said...

ECL, I miss your rants. I have been gone from my blog reading too! Oy.

KIMMAH! Hello love. :) Thank you, as always, for your sweetness and support.

Lisa, yay! I need to find and link this one post you put up eons ago where Bob said something to the effect of "I loved you before you knew I was going to be here." I swear, I think of that sweetness at least once a week. Oh, da love. Da love. :)

J.N. Urbanski said...

Welcome back! Medical bills are ridiculous, especially as you can never have control over what you spend in advance. Nor can you negotiate after the fact. Try getting a price for a test before you get the treatment. A consumer wouldn't go into a store and buy something without knowing the price before they take it home, so why are we forced to do that with our healthcare? It's despicable.

Anonymous said...

Welcome back -- I kept checking and checking and was rewarded today with your new entry. Sorry to hear about your health woes; went through them last year myself and I can say that you will survive the debt. My mother used to tell me that creditors can't eat you ... words to live by. Hang in there!

oilandgarlic said...

Glad you're back and feeling better. My feelings on our country's lack of universal health care is known (it is wrong, period!). Having had my share of health woes, and health woes for my family, I have to say that expecting people to negotiate bills during health crisis is insane, and so wrong! As J.N. said, it's hard to compare prices anyway and if you need healthcare, you need it. It's not a luxury like cable or new pair of shoes.

Anyway, glad you're back in the blogging sphere.

and for my next life. . . said...

So relieved to see you back! Sending recuperative vibes in your direction.

Louise Cady-Fernandes said...

Oh I am so glad that you are back.

We have so many things in common woman!

I imagine that you are finding that most everything flows from health and fitness, including this wonderful blog.

xo

Demandra said...

Thanks, loves! I should probably note that my "alternative" health care providers (the ones who actually helped me, got me off meds and saved my ass from surgery), did offer reduced rates. But still, it was expensive. That, coupled with an expensive car rental, a reduction in income, lots o' gas for transport...yeah. Ouch. But! Onward! Feeling better means everything, and although I'm not happy about the debt, I'm alright. The fact that I'm feeling good, don't need surgery, and am kicking ass is all that really matters in the end.

BOOM! Sanks for the love and support, y'all. I wish we could hang out over tea.

Elizabeth said...

I am so happy that you are writing again. I have missed this blog very much.

Jerry said...

Having a plan is your insurance for getting out of debt. It leads to staying focused on the goals and it will happen! Good luck:)

SKM said...

I'm glad that you're back. And I'm rooting for you!

Demandra said...

Thanks, y'all!